Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?
Jesus keeps it simple:
John 8:34 Jesus answered them,
Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whosoever committeth sin is the servant of sin.
Although it's true that 'desire followeth the eye', it's clear from the narrative in Genesis 3 that Eve hadn't even noticed the fruit before the serpent spoke to her.
The 'law' which was in action during that conversation was that words communicate to our hearts, just as what we speak, communicates our hearts. This is a very simple symmetry which God has placed in creation.
When Paul said, 'Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God', Romans 10:17, he was talking about the dunamis of the word of God being the power to create faith where there may have been none before - 1 Corinthians 1:28b and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: 29 That no flesh should glory in his presence.
Although we see from Genesis that God had commanded Adam about the trees before Eve was formed, it seems unlikely that Eve was left out of the walks which God took with Adam in the garden.
Nevertheless, the responsibility for the obedience of both of them, rested with Adam as Eve's head. Scripture in Leviticus 18 makes clear that the woman becomes one flesh with the man, and it's the man that other men have to deal with. The woman is not expected to take care of herself if she has a husband. (And if she doesn't have a husband, she is still 'one flesh' with her father and mother, while they live.)
I disagree strongly with the way (note my choice of words) you explain what you believe, even though I can see it's a carefully thought out thesis by the people from whom you are hearing it. It supports the 'dual nature' theory, even (it seems), implying that 'Wisdom' is an entity separate from God, and that the 'Serpent' represents it - divided between the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and .... what ...? the tree of life?
The problem with what you put forth (if I have 'heard' correctly what you wrote back to Rick), is that it doesn't accord with scripture's declaration about God, or about the serpent, or about their natures and relationship with each other. You frequently ask for us to 'see' things 'in the Law', which may well be there, as far as the Law goes. But, God has revealed far more than the Law, in Jesus Christ, or, put another way, He has revealed the Law fully, in Jesus Christ.
Hebrews 10:1 For the law having a shadow of good things to come, [and] not the very image of the things, can never with those sacrifices which they offered year by year continually make the comers thereunto perfect.
The other thing I want to express to you, is that any idea that there is a division within God Himself, is a lie.
I can't figure out if this is partly what you're saying, because much of (what you say) is resting on negative images - the opposite of God - the strong implication being that somehow God is the other side of something. Whereas, God is totally pure, holy, undivided, uncreated, light without darkenss or shadow, living water without death (and so on). If there is any thought in your mind that this is otherwise, please be aware that Jung put forth that the divine and the profane exist as poles of the same entity. There is nothing in the Bible which accords with that view.
Likewise, 'the virgin subconscious mind' is also a lie.
When Adam disobeyed God, he knew immediately that he felt different about both himself, and God. Adam had experienced both being in fellowship with God, and, being out of fellowship with God.
Adam's immediate descendants did not have this advantage. Their only relief from their sense of separation was in peace offerings, and a certain kind of obedience to God's ongoing spoken word to them - for many centuries before the Law had been given.
Today, we, too, are born separated from fellowship with God. It is not one's 'virgin subconscious mind' which is aware of Him; we sense our separation from Him because He cannot come to us, because of our sin, and, He has given us 'conscience', regardless of not having the law of love written on our hearts - until we are in a fit state (through a new relationship with God through Jesus Christ), spiritually, to receive the Holy Spirit.
Yes, in God there are emotions and the outworking of those in His actions. But in Him, they are pure. His anger is never unrighteous. His grief is never tinged or absorbed with self-pity. His sorrow is a perfect expression of sorrow, sorrowing for only right reasons in proper circumstances with genuine cause. This is not a flaw in God. These emotions are dark in unregenerate humans because they are usually entirely selfish. The one nearly redeeming power in mankind, is to love another more than self - sometimes - but it falls very short of the love of God in Christ Jesus.
Our capacity to 'know' God, is reserved in a profound part of our beings. This depth is always seeking to 'know' something, and it can be filled in very many ways apart from God. These can seem deeply satisfying - and they are for a season - but they may be far from the template given in the New Testament by the apostles.
Not only does John say we 'are cleansed from all unrighteousness' (1:1:7), but he says in 1:3:6 Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.
You don't have to agree with John, but I have found his words true, and, I find them at quite a variance with the ideas you put forward.
16 That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; 17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; 19 And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.