Yea I suppose that's a humorous way of looking at it. But as I've stated, I just don't see where is says that the man is the "boss" of the house. Submission isn't something defined as enslavement, or some form of bondage. I believe submission should be more defined as respect. But does this mean that the man does not have to respect his wife? Of course not! The husband and wife function as one body; that's ONE BODY. They are not two intellects making decisions for the house hold. They are one body making decisions as one family. At least, that's how it should be. There's no power struggle; at least there shouldn't be.I'm so glad that you at least conceded it's a woman's choice to be submissive... though most fundamentalist Christian men would probably disagree with you...
Anyways, I see where you a coming from, but honestly sister Rose, I think you're being a bit harsh with this. Men and women are equally important. Yes the man and woman have different functions within the family, but it's not as though the man does them all. And no matter how you look at it, neither you, nor I could survive in this world without the opposite sex. Women to me are awesome and gorgeous, though that has been my weakness for a very long time.
OK, back to the subject.
Well in the OT, that was different. Their structure was based solely on Jewish law and structure. We are not part of the Jewish tradition; we are American, although the New Testament defines marriage as it was 2000 years ago. I do not believe that those rules and structures apply to our day and age. Men no longer have to "work the field" because we have machines doing it for us. Women are more than capable of working, and in most places, earn more money than men. In the Air Force, women receive additional funding every year to cover under-garment expenses. They are also given special privelidges that we men do not get when we deploy; they get their own rooms, their own bathrooms and showers. Meanwhile, all meat-packers have to share a room and shower, sometimes bunked 6 to 12 in a single tent.The family structure that I read about in the Bible is quite diverse and varied depending on whether you are reading the Old or New Testaments, so I don't hardly think one can call it flawless. Besides that, my whole point in showing the male bias of the Bible is to point out how obvious it is that the Bible was written by men who perceived "God" to be a masculine warrior type who thought women were property. Why should I believe what bronze age men say about "family structure" anyway?
And I fully agree. We're not talking about 2000 years ago where men had to work hard in the field to ensure their food supply did not dwindle. Let's face it. Life today is much easier compared to ancient times. We buy groceries at a supermarket. They had to grow crops all year long, and store food for the winter; we don't have to do that. We also have farmers doing out work for us, so that we could specialize in other modern day work skills, i.e. aircraft, cards, buildings, etc. Women usually hold secretarial positions, management, and even mechanical. But when it comes to two parent families working, I have a deep concern. Children raised in two parent working families are not often successful. Without parental guidance, the children are often left unattended, thus contributing to the ever increasing disobedience we're seeing in children. My word, it's gotten so bad in schools now, that teachers are having to protect themselves. Students will walk right up to a teacher, pull his pants down, and nothing gets done about it. And I'm not talking about the students pants; there's a youtube video of a student pulling the pants down of a history teacher. In my day, that was reason for capital punishment. My butt would have been black and blue, and then I would have been expelled. Then again, that kind of behavior (pulling teachers pants down) was not thought of in our day.Women don't need men to be their head anymore then men need women to be their head, both men and women are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. It's only when men and women come together to start a family that partnership comes into play...notice I said "partnership" where each member gives what they are most capable of. As long as one party thinks they are superior, a marriage can never be a true union.
All the Best,
Well, I hope this discussion hasn't bruised our relationship sister Rose. I've been with you and Richard for a long time, and I certainly don't want to see our relationship tarnished. I'd leave the Biblewheel if I ever knew that this was happening.
God bless you both my friends. I look forward to seeing you both re-establish your hearts with God.